Cindy Ross Jordan 4.8.04

{Update}

June 2006: Please note the new URL for Cindy's memorial site is www.remembercindy.com (from remembering, to remember). Thank you!

May: Thank you to all of those who took part in the candlelight service in the memory of Cindy.

April: The one year anniversary of Cindy's death is approaching. Please consider taking part in a candlelight service on April 8th, at 8pm (no specific time zone). If you'd like to send an email of encouragment to Cindy's family, please send emails to skye@lifemothers.com and your message will be forwarded to the family.

Thank you!

Welcome to Cindy's Memorial website. A website that I never thought I would have to build. It is my dearest wish that this website helps keep Cindy's memory and story alive. As most of you know, Cindy Jordan took her life on April 8th, 2004. Many of you have been touched by Cindy's compassion in the past, and some have not had the opportunity to know Cindy, but have been touched by her story. Cindy's daughter turned three years old this April, and Cindy so looked forward to seeing updated pictures of her. Now, from heaven, she can gaze upon her beautiful baby as her heart desires.

Cindy had a semi-open adoption arrangement with her daughter's adoptive parents ~ pictures and letters every six months; April & October. Though, sometimes Cindy would email her child's adoptive parents in between those months hoping to get any kind of news about her daughter. Cindy often expressed that she wished she was told about "true" open adoption and that visitation was even an option. {They "matched" over the internet} Still, as many firstmothers know - there are no guarentees that promies will be kept because promises can be broken or go un-fulfilled. The adoptive mother of Cindy's daughter wrote the book, Fast Track Adoption, a book in which hurt Cindy greatly. In March Cindy posted that this book might be featured on the news show 20/20 and this truly devestated her. Cindy often posted about feeling "forgotten" in the adoption process, as if she were "used". Still, even in her hurt and anger ... she still expressed love for her daughter's adoptive parents.

Another Loss: It saddens my heart to tell you that Kate, firstmom to a six week old son, took her life April 24th. According to Kate's dear friend and fellow firstmom, Lin, two days after the court hearing finalizing the adoption, the adoptive parents told Kate that they were "his parents now" and they closed up the adoption (even though she was promised the moon & stars}, even disconnecting their phone. In the note she left behind, Kate said she'd watch her son from heaven. Our prayers go to Kate's loved ones and friends.

Please browse through the site, and get a feel for Cindy's heart, and the hearts of those who grieve her in absense. Dedication: This website is dedicated to Cindy, of course, but also to her three beautiful children, her Mama, her Grandmommy, Mark, Heather, the 3 P's, Gracie, Chip, Uncle Ed and Cindy's friends ...I have had the honor of speaking with some of them and I now know where Cindy had gotten her beautiful heart ~ please remember them all in your prayers and thoughts. Thank you.

 

"When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are ...It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and hear my voice and speak to me in your heart ...For as long as you remember me, I am never entirely lost."